Recently, millions celebrated Valentines Day. Erotic incandescent waves of love flowed through the atmosphere and the world was embalmed in amber light of love, or so it seemed. We often think the love between a man and woman is the highest form of love and nothing can break it. They say, Love is as Strong as Death. Actually, the love between people in love is called eros love. It is frighteningly powerful, but if this love is stirred in an opposite waveform, it transforms to hate. The very person who adored you may suddenly hate you. Eros love shifts fast like sinking sands. Powerful but is like a two-edged sword and can also destroy you with a single swipe!
The ancient Greeks came up with the four different kinds of love: Eros, Storge, Phileo and Agape.
Eros love is a passionate and intense love that arouses romantic feelings. This love is almost like keeping you high on a drug! In this love, your brain releases chemicals that create euphoria, which can occur at various times throughout your cycle of love. You suddenly develop interest in new things that interest the person you love. You actually feel sick or lose your appetite. Being lovesick is a scientific phenomenon. If you notice your heart racing, your hands getting sweaty, your stomach filling with flutters that kind of make you feel nauseous. The stimulation of adrenaline and norepinephrine is legitimately something that happens to most of us when we’re in love. You could also think you have caught a virus, but you may have just caught the love bug! You may also experience symptoms like appetite loss and feeling kind of nauseous. You may be grinning and smiling a lot. You suddenly want to be intimate with the person you love. Your heart may skip a beat when you think about the one you love, but a study showed that you may also be beating in time with each other. A study conducted by the University of California, Davis, suggests that couples’ hearts begin to beat at the same rate when they fall in love.As all of us are different, the way we express love is too and the way we experience it too is different. You may find yourself daydreaming of the person you love, all the time. You will want to learn all the things they like. Your pain threshold is higher too.and even looking at the photo of the one you love may lessen the physical pain in your body! You may be in constant awe of their uniqueness. Everything they do is wonderful and you can never find anything wrong about them!
Eros love is also mystical, magical and magnetic. People are suddenly drawn together very powerfully, by a force that draws them. Or either one person is drawn to another very mysteriously. We can say it also transcends natural laws of science and eros love is a mysterious force. People in love also suffer separation anxiety and fears that the one they love will leave them. Fear makes eros love take extreme actions.
As powerful as eros love is, all in all, sadly, eros love can fade away if shaken up in time, unless a miracle happens and only then can it last forever! In order for eros love to last, it has to be reinforced with Agape Love, which I will share about later.
Storge love is a kind of family and friendship love, which is also a parent-child love. This is a strong committed love. After all, who can love better than our parents? Yet, even our parental love and family love may not be perfect. Storge love may not be the most powerful love of all.
Phileo love refers to an affectionate, warm platonic love, which constitutes friendships. This is good friendship care and love. Once again, this is not the strongest love. We know friends can fail us and people change.
Agape love is an unconditional love that sees beyond the outer surface and accepts the person for whom he/she is, regardless of their flaws. God’s love is Agape love, the highest form of love. Jesus always spoke of Love as the greatest commandment of all in this life.
In the Bible, Agape love is described in Corinthians 13:
Love is patient and kind. Love is not ·jealous or envious, it does not brag, and it is not ·proud, arrogant; conceited; puffed up. Love is not ·rude or disrespectful, is not ·selfish or self-serving, and ·does not get upset with others [is not easily provoked/angered. Love does not ·count up or keep a record of wrongs that have been done. Love ·takes no pleasure, does not rejoice in ·evil or wrongdoing; injustice, but rejoices over the truth. Love ·patiently accepts all things, bears all things; or always protects, ·always trusts, believes all things, ·always hopes, hopes all things, and ·always endures all things. Love never ·ends, fails; falls short. So these three things ·continue forever, endure; remain: faith, hope, and love. And the greatest of these is love.
We need God’s love to flow through us in order to have Agape Love. Agape Love will stand the test of time and enable us to love and care for each other with deeper commitments, feelings and emotions change but Agape Love, flowing from the heart of God to us to love others grows more and more with time. It is the highest most supernatural form of love. .This love will last forever and this is the love the world needs! Combine Agape Love with Eros Love, Storge Love and Phileo Love and we can have the most powerful Love force going on that will defeat any hate and evil!
Rita F. Kurian
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